“Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath” (Ephesians 4:26, KJV).
It would seem that this passage allows for the expression of anger, but is this really the case? Does this scripture imply that it is permisible to express your anger at any time?
In a recent article about relationships and anger, some very interesting statistics are elucidated:
- •23% of Americans openly express their anger.
- •39% say they hold it in or hide it.
- •23% say they walk away.
- •23% confess to having hit someone.
- •17% admit they have destroyed someone’s property out of anger.
(Resource: What’s Good About Anger? by Lynette Hoy and Ted Griffin)
Recently, I was in a very popular department store in the check out line, and behind me was a parent screaming at her daughter angrily. As I left the check out line, one of the employees walked by me and attempted to open one of the doors. When she discovered that it was locked, she proceeded to bawl out explitives right there. As I continued to walk to my car, I thought about the 70’s song, “Love is in the Air,” but instead of love there was anger in the air. From road rage to Elliot Rodger (Santa Barbara shooter-2014) people seem to be incessantly on the verge of boiling over.
So why are people so angry?
In his book, Emotional Resilience, David Viscott explicates the different manifestations of pain. Past pain is called hurt. Present pain is called anger. Pain caused by fear of the future is called anxiety. When pain isn’t managed properly, the end result is what is called emotional debt. When we factor in daily stressors, past regrets, deadlines, and unresolved losses, people are living in a perpetual state of pain.
Since anger and pain seem to be the milieu in which we live, chances are you have or will come into contact with hostile others. So let’s talk…
How do you respond to people with bad attitudes or angry dispositions?
If pain causes anger, how does this change your perspective?
How do you manage your own negative emotions including anger?
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